This weekend I had the strangest experience ever, I got judged way too quickly for my liking and it wasn’t a pretty experience. Hey, I’m not bad looking at all, I might need to shed a couple pounds but I’m working on it, who doesn’t need to shed a couple here and there? All in all, I think I’m a pretty good catch, smart, independent, good looking, not to mention a trick or two I have under my sleeve. I began to think, why is it that people pass judgment on each other without even taking the time to get to know them? What ever happened to taking a little time to get to know someone and discover their inner beauty?

The Dailai Lama once said “youngsters these days fall in love due to external attraction, which will eventually wear off, and this leaving them with the inevitable focus on the inner ugliness”. But what is ugly? Is ugly to be fat, have acne, walk funny or wear glasses? Isn’t it better to put aside how people look and focus on who they are and what they can provide in a friendship/relationship? Lets be realistic here and say that boy/girl intimacy requires that “click”, the chemistry, we can all we agree on that, there is no “switch” that can make you feel attracted to someone in order to have sex. But let’s be more general, must we always pass judgment so quickly?

I was reading a bit the other day on Buddism, one of their practices is the cultivation of inner beauty and sincerity as opposed to wanting to see and be with beautiful things, and be physically beautiful. Maybe we should all practice a little Buddism on a daily basis.

I think inner beauty rocks way more than anything physical, it can make you shine way more than the most expensive face powder. Having this natural glow means that you acknowledge that you are not who you think you are, you are you, it’s your essence, trusting who you are and not who others wish you to be. How many women spend hours at the gym and in front of the mirror, covering and painting and enhancing? Its all superficial, why so much effort on the exterior when the interior needs so much work?

Beauty proceeds from the inside out. It means honoring the inner beauty of your body, becoming erotic in your own self and loving who you are. Inner beauty is the expression of love and compassion, being aware that each moment is as it is no matter how hurtful the vibes of judgment. The lesson? Let’s look inward instead of outward, stop, think, take a glimpse and find the source of the beauty before you pass on any judgment.