Do we block change?

Found this on the net… interesting questions. My thoughts? Yes we do, in Spanish we call them pedos mentales, which basically means “mental farts”. I think we all have the power of decision, no matter what the subject, but we also have a great power to sabotage ourselves along the way… 

Why are we able to easily change some things and not others has intrigued us to the point of creating a whole self-help industry to answer that question. We have all made decisions or reacted to changes beyond our control with absolutely no problem. We just did it. So what is the stumbling block to the changes we want to make but can’t seem to do?

Perhaps it is two simple words that create the block. Those two words are “I am”. I am fat, I am stupid, I am no good at ….., I am ….? Whatever we say to ourselves and others is what we are because it is a belief we have created for ourselves and no one knows us like we do so, it has to be true and  thus we build our beliefs on who we are and how we function in this world of ours. It really is about our reality and only has to make sense to ourselves.

Perhaps the solution to change is simply deciding that “We are” something different and train ourselves to live that way just the way we taught ourselves to live the way we no longer want

Your thoughts?

by Peter Haslam

Why do women fake it?

Remember that really funny scene in that old movie “When Harry Met Sally”?… you know, the part where Meg Ryan fakes an orgasm in the middle of a packed diner, crazy funny, but good, she’s good! So… yes, some women fake it, bad bad news for the guys. To begin and for those who are wondering, no, I’ve never faked it… I’m way too straight-forward and honest to bring myself down to that, plus, I’m a sucky actress lol.

So this subject came up on Twitter last night, after watching an episode on Seinfeld, you go figure! I just had to sit down and brush the subject a little. 70%… that’s what studies say, 70% of women fake it, ouch! Maybe they don’t do it all the time, but there is a very high probability that it has happened. Funny thing is, how many times have you heard a guy say “Oh if a woman would fake it with me, I would know for sure”?… yea buddy, keep telling yourself that!

I’m a woman, and I have lived a little, not to say a lot… and oh have I talked about sex with so many of my girlfriends through the years. I can tell you, that when most women have sex with their boyfriends or husbands, I’d say about 99.7 (The other 0.3% belongs to my sunshine) have faked it! AND, 100% of those times, all of them swear that the poor guy never knew the difference… ouch again! Its no secret that men like to think that when they make love to a woman, that she is actually having the best sex of her life, or at the very least, that he has completely satisfied her. Unfortunately, that is not always the case, so sad! I once heard this girl say that some nights she’d let the actress in her come out and let her man feel good, you know, not to ruin his fun. Heck, that must be bad having nights like those, what ever happened to mutual satisfaction? Girls, we have as much right to get it as we like to give it… so if you’re not getting it, maybe its time to move on! Read the rest of this entry »