Think again

Where has it all disappeared to?
I should drive a different route to work
Or maybe take public transport
I miss people watching
I need to go somewhere I’ve never been
Or reverse the order of my day
Can I bring it back?
Why did it die?
I should get back to my reading habits
Or just pretend I’m rich for a week
Buy something I’ve never bought
Or make something I always buy
What have I got?
Who is it for?
Do they want it?
I should begin to do the opposite of what I do
I know I lack in some areas
Maybe I should stop listening
Entrepreneurs need an open mind
Can I open mine?
Maybe I should leave
Maybe I should start my own venture

Why do we mistrust?

Trust - the lubricant of business relationships, its like oil, slippery and difficult to grasp. Most of us humans trust people and situations on a regular basis, unless we have a specific reason to distrust them. So why are there people who generally mistrust with no reason? Should we really waste our time and efforts trying to gain the trust of someone who just doesn’t have it in them?

Mistrust is supposedly a consequence of past actions. If you have created a situation where someone has reason to mistrust you, then hey, ok go ahead, mistrust is accepted. But, there is a clear difference between a simple absence of trust, and positive mistrust. I believe that people who just generally mistrust are that way as consequence of a complex set of beliefs, perceptions or even actions. Maybe they are that way because they are not worthy of being trusted themselves.

Mistrust is very difficult to deal with, is it fair to have to deal with it even if it’s not fairly deserved? Lately I’ve been debating if I should just tackle false beliefs head-on or do I just simply switch my identity and go with the flow, then again, I can’t do that, I’m not willing to change who I am just because someone has decided that I am not worthy of their trust.

Mistrust drains you, it affects your self worth and makes it difficult to focus and move on, how can you believe in what you are doing when you’re not being trusted in your chores? Having confidence in ourselves is vitally important in anything we do, it’s so unfortunate when someone feels the need to bring you down when you manage to begin to fly high!

Any suggestions?

Do we take things too personally?

Been a while… been so so so busy and wrapped up in a million things that I just haven’t had the time to come and write. Sigh, work always gets in the way haha! So I found this “thought” on the web the other day, interesting thinking, thought I’d share. Cheap shot to the weekend!!…

We can easily be hurt or become angry when someone does something that doesn’t fit with the way we feel we should be treated. We take things personally. I know I usually get reminded of this daily.

Someone leaves the cap off the toothpaste. Someone else doesn’t clean up after themselves. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Blows their horn when you stop to let a pedestrian cross. Some days it can be a seemingly endless list of petty and major issues of disrespect.

What if it wasn’t about us?

We take it personally because to us we are the center of the universe. Everything around us and interacting with us is personal. What if the other person doesn’t even know we exist? When they blow their horn they don’t know us from a hole in the ground. They are just acting out their frustrations with their personal world or acting absent mindedly from their needs.

It is when we take it personally that it causes suffering in us and reactive responses from feeling hurt to outright anger. When the cap is off the toothpaste just put it back on if that is what we want.

Nothing is personal even when they insult us. They are simply acting out their frustrations, anger, fear or issues of self-worth. Short of being a safety issue for ourselves do we want to join them in having a frustrating life or do we want something better for ourselves.

The choice is ours.

A penny for my thoughts…

Yes we live in a complex planet, each one of us is a world on its own, tastes, personalities and even pet peeves. Tolerance is a great key to survive and I guess being a little odd and off-key can come in handy too, just to keep some kind of sanity. I myself sometimes have a hard time figuring people out sometimes and I’m pretty open minded, still some people never seize to amaze me. I was reminded of this whilst I was surfing through Craig’s List earlier this evening, we all have our weirdness and problems in life, some way more than others. This one 20 yr old guy was looking for someone to teach him how to kiss lol, he’s had this 5 yr online relationship (yes, 5 yrs!) and was going to meet this girl and didn’t know how to kiss… Whilst others, like some chic who had just woken up from a one night stand, were posting to get their bra back from the unknown dude they had sex with the night before! Ah yes! everybody has their issues. Some desperately seek affection and others just can’t get enough of it. Relationships can be so complicated, really makes you wonder who’s the lucky one, the dude who can’t kiss or the one night stander maybe she should date the guy who’s trying to sell his ex’s collection of books for insecure women ”tons of them” according to him, seems like he could use a night with the girl wearing the expensive French bra. All in all, it’s all live and learn, laugh it off and keep on moving. :o)
Cheap shot to the weekend…

Patience and faith

The sea does not reward those who are too anxious, too greedy or too impatient.

To dig for treasures shows not only impatience and greed, but lack of faith.

Patience, patience, patience, is what the sea teaches.

Patience and faith.

One should lie empty, open, choice less as a beach “waiting for a gift from the sea”