What is ugly?

This weekend I had the strangest experience ever, I got judged way too quickly for my liking and it wasn’t a pretty experience. Hey, I’m not bad looking at all, I might need to shed a couple pounds but I’m working on it, who doesn’t need to shed a couple here and there? All in all, I think I’m a pretty good catch, smart, independent, good looking, not to mention a trick or two I have under my sleeve. I began to think, why is it that people pass judgment on each other without even taking the time to get to know them? What ever happened to taking a little time to get to know someone and discover their inner beauty?

The Dailai Lama once said “youngsters these days fall in love due to external attraction, which will eventually wear off, and this leaving them with the inevitable focus on the inner ugliness”. But what is ugly? Is ugly to be fat, have acne, walk funny or wear glasses? Isn’t it better to put aside how people look and focus on who they are and what they can provide in a friendship/relationship? Lets be realistic here and say that boy/girl intimacy requires that “click”, the chemistry, we can all we agree on that, there is no “switch” that can make you feel attracted to someone in order to have sex. But let’s be more general, must we always pass judgment so quickly? Read the rest of this entry »