6 relationship decisions that have been made for us

Last month Oprah decided to give us answers to some of the biggest relationship dilemmas. I’m sure all of us have been in at least one of these situations, if not all of them (like me LOL) so hey, if there’s one that hasn’t hit you yet, I combined their answers with my comments just in case you need help you along the way.

1. I’m married and exhausted. Sex or sleep?
According to therapist Paul Glovinsky, BOTH is the answer, not because of the sex but because of timing, mostly because men crash like a mighty oak whilst us ladies lay awake and fume lol. The advice? “If you can time things to coincide with the time of day when you’re at peak energy, your sex life will be significantly more satisfying.” Remember sex in the morning? Weekend naptimes? We must never be hesitant to have sex because in the end, the average encounter is only around 20 minutes long. (hah! Funny!) Therefore, the resistance might be a reflection of our lack of satisfaction with the sex, fear of intimacy, performance anxiety, anger about something or any other issue. (sounds fair to me but I don’t have this problem haha!)

2. My clock is ticking. Settle for the guy I care about, or hold out for The One, who may never show up?
Aaaaah, the million dollar question!! Marrying Mr. Almost The One is perfectly admissible. “If someone is your match in 75 to 85 percent of the things that are important to you - values, character strengths, how he treats other people, emotional fitness - that’s not settling.” I did sometime back believe that I had found my “one and only soul mate” but hey, I wont get into that. I guess it’s up to us to infuse “good enough” with energy and passion so that it becomes fantastic. That with some good strong chemistry and things can work for sure. Read the rest of this entry »