Food for thought | Should we just accept results and move on?

We can spend a great deal of time trying to discover the reasons for a particular situation we are in especially if we decide other people are involved. The moment we consider the situation may be caused by others we seem to go on a which hunt. Who did it? Why did they do it? How do we prevent it from happening again? Just to name a few of the questions we could ask.

People take action according to their beliefs whether we agree or not so we could waste a lot of time and effort trying to answer why and never get it right. We can examine the situation for clues to preventing a similar situation occurring in future. After that we should just accept the results and move on.

Your thoughts?

by Peter Haslam

Why do we always want what we can’t have?

Is it human tendency or human weakness? Are there things that are so precious to us that we prefer to long for them instead of just letting go? It sounds quite silly to pine over someone or something that is unattainable. Maybe human nature dictates what we are meant to have, or not, or maybe its destiny. Sometimes the person we most want is just beyond our grasp, could it be that we only want them because we know they are out of our reach? And when they do come to us, we have moved on, and then its their turn to want what they could have had.

Maybe we cant always have the one we want, but, we can all want to have.

Wanting and pining sometimes bring us some kind of perverse pleasure. Why can’t we just use that passion to seek not for what we can’t have but to find the one that is waiting for us? Love always has a way of striking us blind, you’d think we’d learn but we fall for it every time. 

I read the other day that true loves have roots that grow towards each other from underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two. Love comes around very few times in a lifetime, if any at all, why do we always choose to wait for what we can’t have instead of moving on to find the next tree?

On doors and windows…

As I check my statistics on a daily basis, I have began to notice how many people arrive at my blog searching words such as “moving on” or “new beginning”, you’d think I was some kind of expert at these subjects when in fact I honestly do suck at them!. This really got me thinking, I actually have moved on many times in my life, so maybe I’m getting too good at it, or at least I have learned to hide away certain feelings in order to force myself forward and gain a fresh mentality. I had some interesting conversations this weekend, about relationships, heartbreak and moving on. Life throws us curve-balls, all the time, that’s no secret to anyone… maybe there’s a true reason for them. 

I have loved hard, and I know how it feels to be at that point where maybe you just feel that you are wasting your time, and your feelings of course. It’s hard to “click” with someone of the opposite sex, even more if you’ve been married, have kids, and know how hard it is to find someone remotely compatible. How many times have we just thought things way too much and then realized the window has passed? Maybe we just need to act upon things quickly, I mean, we all get to a point where we look back and think, boy! Its been that long!? Its all live and learn right?… the only mistake we can make is the one from which we learn nothing.

How many times have we all gone over and over in our minds about what was, or what could have been, or how bad we felt? In the end, what’s the point of doing that when we just need to accept the fact that it’s over and that its time to put things behind us. And, of course, if someone shows up that can help us get through the ordeal faster, why not? Why waste time? 

I’ve wasted a lot of time in my life, waiting, loving, caring and even more waiting. We need to take more chances, it opens a door to be pleasantly surprised, and who knows, maybe someone will come along and just remind you that you are still alive and have a lot to give.

Life is way too short and if there is something I have learned is that it comes in stages, all good and bad. It’s good to act spontaneously, take chances and open our eyes and our hearts to new experiences, new feelings and new people… the windows are there, we just have to learn to find them and go for them, live a little… go for it! :o)

Just a thought… any comments?

Do we need an ending for something new to begin?

Monday night, pijamas, couch, chai tea and Jay LaMontagne playing quietly (thanx Brad!) maybe I can do a little writing since the mood seems just right tonight. I’ve been a bit mellow lately, maybe it’s been my new music or the fact that things aren’t going very well at work, could be I’m missing someone but god knows who! Maybe it’s like that John Mayer song, the love song for no one lol

This year has gone by so so so fast, could be its all just flashing before my eyes and again the end of year is arriving. Those who know me well know that I’m not the best person to be around when the Xmas and New Years season comes around, ugh! Still can’t put my finger on it yet, why I hate the season. Could be the superficial materialistic smell in the air or the fact that I can never make any special plans being as I always depend on what my kids will be up to. Could be that its as simple as facing the end of yet another year, one more gone by, forcing you to turn around and just wonder how on earth it went by without you even noticing.

I’ve had one too many endings in my life, seasons, relationships, stages, feelings, people, must I go on? For most of us the ending of something is just another occasion for sadness and regret, it’s so hard to remember and just remind ourselves that it is just a natural part of life. After all, life is a process, not something we can just get over with easily. If we are so aware of this, why do we still let it get to us? Read the rest of this entry »